Some tips when meeting prospective members, though you must use your own common sense and means which are in your best interest.
Meet in a familiar place where there are people around; never meet in secluded spots. If someone suggests a quiet place, wait until you get to know them better.
Leave some details behind with someone in whom you confide, where you are going and with whom you are going to meet. Agree to be home at a certain hour, or to call someone to let them know you will be late.
Make your own transport arrangements to and from a meeting place. If you have not met anyone alone before and feel nervous, it may be a good idea to take someone with you for company.
If you choose to go to a restaurant, do not opt for expensive dining experience. A simple cup of tea or coffee in a cafe should be fine. You will not know if the meeting is going to be fruitful, and whether you are going to like each other to meet again.
Talk to them about them and listen to their answers. Do ask for clarification if in doubt concerning their important aspects of life like qualifications, job, living arrangements, etc.
If you feel uncomfortable, you have no obligation to stay any longer. Make some excuse, well planned beforehand for such situations to arise, and leave quietly.
Never invite a stranger to your residence, nor go to the other persons place. Do not give your home or work address or phone number to them. Intelligent and well mannered individuals will appreciate your polite refusal in doing so as you both do not know enough about each other yet.
Keep in contact either through the contact section of ApnaMatch.com or via email for some time so that you build an offline as well as online relationship.
Stop communicating or meeting if the other person:
- Does not keep to the facts or statements made earlier, but give inconsistent and different versions about their age, qualifications, profession, employment, living accommodation, etc.
- Avoids answering reasonable and straight forwards questions, though asked repeatedly.
- Makes claims that seem extraordinary, or contradictory to what you already know about them.
- Does not fancy introducing to their friends and relatives, even though it was not your intention to go for it yet.
- Makes critical and disrespectful remarks or physical inappropriate behaviour.
- Looses temper and displays frustration quite often and try to dominate and control you; think they are always right and will not listen to reasonable arguments.
Use the Block a Member
function to stop them from communicating with you.